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DO it now or do it later, either
way the work of grieving just must be done. That’s what I’ve heard so many
times.
The transaction involved in
grieving a loss is honesty given for the receipt of healing. Honesty is
exchanged for, and is prerequisite to, healing. In grief, be real.
The opposite transaction is to
delay grieving through denial. To not be honest about it. To go out of our way
to avoid its confronting reality. To turn from how life is.
Honesty, in the final analysis, is
a wisdom for life, and a grace from God, that cannot be discounted. The
capacity to be honest, to ply the courage to grieve our losses, is a gift, for
those who are honest often say they can do little else. When honesty can be the
only way, we simply must praise God — He made us in such a way as to inherit
the wisdom of faithfulness. Not everyone enjoys the gift, but all can ask for
it, and God always grants wisdom when we ask sincerely.
Honesty can certainly make things
harder initially. It’s often a risk to trust. Especially where others are concerned.
Honesty requires courage, which in this case is faith.
Grieving is certainly an up-and-down
journey where sudden unpredictable plummets into the pit of an abyss become the
norm. Every single time we’re blindsided we need to try to remember that even
though the pain is interminably tormenting it is normal. The courage that calls
us to accept this blesses us. We’re being honest, and strength is being added, even
if it feels we’ve never been weaker.
God goes throughout our whole lives
hoping to get our attention. And with grief our self-sufficiency is stalled. When
we finally discover our power is insufficient, we turn to Him and find His
power was always enough. Then honesty is all we can do.
In every recovery, honesty is the
forerunner to healing. God repays our humility to honour the truth, adding within
our plight His divine help. It’s always enough.
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